Autostima, un approccio spirituale e pratico

PRESENZA E CONNESSIONE Everything is coming and going just like clouds in the sky. Mooji (Tutto va’ e viene come nuvole nel cielo)   Mi ricordo, alla fine dei miei vent’anni, di aver partecipato ad un corso sull’autostima. Ad un certo punto il facilitatore chiese al gruppo di dare una definizione di autostima. All’improvviso punto’ il dito nella mia direzione per una risposta. In quel momento io ero un po’ assente, imbambolata, con la mente vuota…..quindi lo guardai senza rispondere…respirando… in silenzio….e lui disse: ecco questa e’ l’autostima!   Dopo tanta ricerca sul benessere spirituale ora capisco il senso di quel momento: e’ nel vuoto della mente, nel silenzio dell’ego, nel puro essere, che troviamo il valore di noi stessi e della vita. Quando ci dimentichiamo chi siamo, da dove veniamo, e dove andiamo, si crea un vuoto e rimane uno stato di pura presenza. In questo stato non c’è spazio per l’autocritica, solo connessione e profonda calma.   Nel vuoto della presenza lasciamo andare ogni identita’ e diventiamo come i bambini quando giocano. I bambini non hanno problemi di autostima, loro giocano e basta. La loro mente non e’ ancora sviluppata, quindi non c’è’ autocritica, solo istinto. Non c’è interpretazione, solo esperienza. Nel momento presente e nel gioco non c’e’ giudizio, solo pura gioia a creativita’,   E’ dunque la mente il problema alla base dell’autostima? Nella mia esperienza la mente può essere causa di grande sofferenza. La buona notizia e’ che abbiamo il potere di indirizzarla, oltre a possedere un modo piu’ intuitivo e autentico di vivere, basato sulla connessione con la forza creativa interiore universale.  ...

L’arte del Ricevere

Mi fermo e al centro del mio essere mi apro a ricevere l’infinito amore e abbondanza dell’universo     Questa e’ la mia breve riflessione oggi, sul ricevere. Per ricevere bisogna prima fermarsi e svuotarsi. Lasciare andare questo muoversi compulsivo, questo fare di continuo. Mi rendo conto inoltre, come spesso diamo per ricevere in cambio, per essere amati. Essere amati incondizionatamente e’ invece un nostro diritto divino. Da un punto di vista pratico, per potersi esprimere, bisogna connettersi all’energia creativa dell’universo, che ci offre nutrimento fisico ed ispirazione. Noi siamo creatori e creiamo dal di dentro.   Prova questa meditazione, ovunque sei, in un momento di relax:   Mi fermo e mi svuoto. Non fare, non dare. Uno spazio solo per me, per rilassarmi e ricevere. Mi apro a ricevere l’infinito amore e abbondanza del cosmo. Quando espiro, svuoto. Lascio andare pensieri, tensioni e stress, lunghe liste di cose da fare. Lascio andare dolore e disperazione e pianto inespresso. Lascio andare tensione nel corpo. Quando inspiro, ricevo. Apro le mie ali al vento. Apro i miei rami al sole. Proclamo il mio diritto a ricevere, in quanto creatura divina. L’energia che scorre nel mio corpo e mi fa vivere, mi nutre e sostiene. Inspiro e mi nutro. Ricevo amore ed energia vitale. Mi arrendo, mi abbandono e mi apro. Espiro e continuo a svuotarmi. Inspiro e continuo a riempirmi. Mi espando nell’energia infinita del cosmo. Inspiro amore. Sono amore. Inspiro energia creativa. Sono infinita energia...

Accetta Te Stesso

Il mio ultimo blog parlava di stare al centro del nostro essere, energeticamente nel chakra del cuore. Il mio manifesto del momento e’ coerente: l’accettazione incondizionata del Se’ ci porta al centro. Quando accettiamo noi stessi e la nostra unicità i vantaggi sono molteplici:   Siamo in pace nell’anima e nel corpo. Diveniamo il leader della nostra vita. Ci sentiamo connessi con il mondo, con il web of life. Essere se stessi, essere autentici, essere reali……senza compromessi. Solo noi possiamo sentire e definire la nostra essenza. I criteri degli altri ci limitano per definizione. I giudizi degli altri ripetuti nella nostra mente bloccano la nostra energia vitale. Quando sei te stesso sei leader. Se cerchi di compiacere gli altri perdi energia e ispirazione. Siamo tutti cosi’ diversi! In vacanza con la mia cara amica Betty, lei tutta azione, io tutta meditazione. Io ho bisogno del vuoto esistenziale, della comunione con la natura, della preghiera, per essere creativa. Betty ama l’attivita’ in genere, camminare, andare in bicicletta, esplorare e fare. Chi e’ nel giusto? Fregarsene del giudizio degli altri. In ogni momento chi decidi di essere? Se arriva il giudizio altrui ricorda che è il loro mondo, il loro paradigma. Non è personale la loro critica. Ognuno ha il potere di scegliere chi vuole essere. In questo momento chi sono io? Cosa sento, cosa voglio, come decido di comportarmi, cosa mi fa sentire meglio con me stesso? Come diceva la mia amica Patrizia: libertà ai popoli! Ad un gruppo di amiche con idee molto diverse sul tipo di weekend da passare insieme nella natura.   All’origine c’e’ la paura. Paura...

At the Centre of your Being

I started writing this blog in the spring of 2016, before moving back to Italy the following July. Little did I know I had to apply fully what I wrote about, to be able to go through this very stressful time. Indeed the main news is this: I left much loved England to set up residency in Milan, to care for my father and to follow my Soul calling me back home. I sold my flat, left my day-job and parted from friends, family and colleagues in England. With no anchors and little possessions I set sail into an unchartered phase of my life and the whole process has not been easy. I had to keep a firm focus on organizing everything, whilst handling strong emotions, such as anxiety, fear and grief for separation, with my past continuously coming up to be assessed in a sort of recapitulation. After moving, whilst settling down and resting, I realized that staying at the centre of my being has been very useful in the midst of this upheaval. The core technique is about being centred in the heart. And it is not a sentimental one. It is highly practical, scientific and spiritual. The celtic shamans call it ‘Dropped attention’: whenever you can drop the attention into your body, at the centre of your chest. In practice let’s try this. Put your attention at the centre of your chest and breathe in and out from there. Keep the attention at the centre of your heart chakra and at the same time imagine a field around you. Your core is a point of light,...

Make Love, not War

I heard someone saying “Enlightenment means there is no difference between Inside and Outside”. When I am in fluidity, expansion and deep stillness I can feel this. We are all moving towards a ‘We are One’ consciousness. Yet sometimes I still find myself more at war with people than in love, reacting to difficult, irritating behavior and emotions in others. To be able to hold a ‘Peaceful state of Oneness’ I have been learning how to master my negative Ego, silencing my anxious mind and healing my pain body. I can reach my core of light, peeling off tension and layers of negativity, and root into the un-manifested, accepting and loving creation around me as it is. I become the sea and flow with each wave around me. And of course, having done that, the universe comes to test me with a couple of really annoying situations with people, filled with tense negative energy, such as anger and hurt. Have you ever had that? And how do you deal with it? Do you choose a loving response or do you fight back, stopping what you perceive is hurting and abusive? This world is full of abuse, we abuse the air we pollute and the earth we exploit, we are abused by social conditioning and we are not respected even within our most intimate relationships. We react, judge and hold a lot of tension in our bodies. Recently, after an ecstatic break-through in a Life Alignment seminar, I found myself in a few situations of conflict. After mastering my ego the universe tested if I was able to deal with...

Family of Light

I have just come back from an amazing Life Alignment retreat with Jeff Levin. Energy medicine is really the future! And what I want to share specifically is my personal experience with the Family of Light.   I have always believed that we are not alone. I remember countless rituals invoking gods, goddesses or archetypal elemental energies; or meditations connecting with angels, masters and other light beings. As a daughter of a surgeon and from an atheist background, a part of my mind has always thought that I must be slightly mad. Conscious connection to higher dimensional beings, in fact, doesn’t happen with the mind. It happens by transmission. During the retreat, by letting go of my fear, I literally opened my energy field and felt these luminous friends merge with my body, transmitting immense love, joy, and power. By connecting to our family of light we enter a higher field of consciousness, a sea of love where we are all connected and together we can sing a song of joy and bliss! We are all doing this anyway; it’s the Earth 2012 Ascension Process. All resistance is futile! The difficulty lies indeed in the need to open and surrender. To raise our energy frequency we need to unlock our pain and fear, release our low vibration emotions and structures. We need to be a clear channel to receive the transmission of our family of light. The good news is that in the surrender we always remain in charge! We always have choice. We are co-creators with Spirit. We choose our path and our pace. Our luminous friends know...

Crown Chakra Experiencing the Absolute

The best way to know about the chakras is through experience, by learning to feel them in our body and understanding them in our own awareness. In the autumn I have attended a residential Crown Chakra workshop with Jeff Levin, creator of the Life Alignment system. It has been an intense experience and the following is what I learnt. Working consciously with the Crown chakra opens the way to Self-Mastery. Self-Mastery is over the Ego Mind that blocks our connection to Source, and we are all on an ongoing journey towards surrendering to our Divine Self. The crown chakra is a place of Truth, where the mind as the Saboteur, the Inner Critic and the Rationalist, or set in other patterns blocking our connection to Higher Self, is revealed and released. Some of these patterns have been lasting for a life-time. One of mine, for example, is the need to be seen and recognised. This pattern drives my behaviour, as I try to impress others and prove my worth. These mind habits drive us like puppets and, at times, they can be like demons, torturing us with anxious thoughts. We need to chase them out, with powerful conscious command! It’s was so liberating to let go of my attitude. With no need to be acknowledged, I can just be myself, in a state of peace and inner connection. When the negative mind grips the energy body, it creates physical tension and stress. The only way is to observe our thoughts and go through their grip, until all tension is released. The crown chakra is the place of the Observer....

Body, Earth and the Mother Goddess

I want to talk about the Body and Earth Mother Love. Close your eyes for a moment and tune into your heart, breathing in and out. Tune into your belly too, drop your attention there. Put a hand on your heart and a hand on your belly and just breathe. Recall now the feeling of a soothing primal bonding, deeply relaxed in your body, you are enjoying the nourishing embrace of physical love, a warm heart connection, the feeling of your heart being opened and at peace. This nourishing soothing feeling of being physically connected and loved has its origin in mother unconditional love, a warm bonding through the body. This sense of wellbeing, we try to recreate later in our lives, in all of our relations, with lovers, children, family, friends, and also in our activities, sport, hobbies, creative work. When we are in tune with our bodies and connected to the energy of the earth, we are able to recreate this sense of connectedness and deep physical well-being. The other night I had a dream: after falling asleep in a state of anxiety, with my thoughts racing through lists of things to do and lots of not-good enoughs, I dreamed about a jungle. She was misty, green, luscious, mysterious, wet, enchanted, giving me an irresistible feeling of wonder and belonging. The whole day the jungle stayed with me, I was relaxed and clear-minded, in my body a warm feeling of being held and loved. In our western society we live in our head, constantly immersed in our thoughts, with little contact with the body. Shamans know that...

Surrender, Flow and the Power of the Feminine

Imagine flow for a moment…silence and soft breathing….a peaceful rhythm, maybe you are in nature…the sea…wind in the trees. Slow down…allow stillness to arise from within. The body is relaxing deeply inside….you are letting go….of tension….surrendering. It’s peaceful inside. Now let’s plan! Goals and resolutions, lots of them, a long list of things to do, the mind wants to do so much…and not enough time, not enough energy…Can you feel the stress and the anxiety arising within? All very good with the intentions but what about the tension generated in the process? The point I want to make is that maybe there is another way, I believe more feminine in its nature, to be on purpose and efficient. The way is emptying your cup instead of filling it. The way is flowing and surrendering instead of willing and doing and pushing. Flow implies letting go of stress and tension in the body. Flow means deep acceptance of what is in the moment. I accept what is now…I relax..I feel a stillness inside…I can see beauty around me…I can see my next step. And the doing is easy, relaxed. Move your body with surrender, prepare your dinner with surrender. One step after the other in a continuous flow, present for each step. If the flow gets blocked take another action, don’t waste energy being disappointed, do not force the result, do not create tension. Surrender doesn’t mean inactive. It  is relaxed action instead. Whenever you feel a tension inside, whatever you are doing, stop. Notice the stress and listen to your body. You may want to sit still and breathe and empty yourself. Send...

The Mystery of Love

I want to write about love and, as a woman, this will be very much influenced by the Goddess’ way of loving. In the psyche of both men and women feminine consciousness loves through unrestrained passion and creativity. My journey in exploring the mystery of love has been tortuous at times and my heart has experienced both bliss and excruciating longing. All my life I have been looking for love, being loved and loving, that feeling of warmth and connection with people; in intimacy a physical deep mutual desire; as a child of being loved as I am, unconditionally; in the world as a love for beauty, art and nature. As a healer the experience of harmony, sacredness and high vibration. Love is a verb, it’s an action, it flows out of our body as energy. It cannot be restrained. Often I am told I am too affectionate or too needy, I like to kiss and hug, I like to say to people that they are beautiful. I flirt a lot and I like sensuality and physical contact. Yes I need love as I need air to breathe and food to eat. I cannot live without it. And when I feel love I cannot stop, it would be like stopping breathing. In the last two years I learnt a lot about love through separation, bereavement and rejection. It has been very painful, I cried a lot, I didn’t quite know where all this suffering was coming from, the pain was physical, like a hole in the chest or a tightening that stopped my breathing. And it would not go away....